Knowing one's own mental resources
There are people who not only overcome stress, burdens and difficult life situations well, but who even grow from them. An explanation for this is provided by a person's mental robustness, called "resilience" by experts. A person who is resilient and robust experiences crises and burdens like everyone else, but does not let them get him down. Resilience is only partly something you are born with – anyone can actively contribute to extending his own strengths and abilities, i.e. his resources.
How can I strengthen my resources?
- Assuming responsibility for my own actions
People who always hold others or the circumstances responsible for their own successes or failures are not resilient in the long term because they do not feel like they have a hold on things.
- Cultivating social contacts
Studies have shown, that people – be it children or adults – are better able to cope with burdensome situations when other people support them and are there for them. Conversely, a person travels through life more strongly if he is a help and friend to others.
- Relaxing, moving, eating well
Very few people in our latitudes, i.e. in the Northern European countries, are naturally talented in this respect. But a relaxed body is the basic prerequisite for a person's ability to deal with stress and burden. And as one doesn't learn anything new when one is under stress, one should already create various possibilities to achieve a balance during the quiet times.
- Changing perspective from time to time
In turbulent times, one should keep in mind that periods of crisis will pass and that one has already mastered difficult situations in the past. Crises and burdens are part of life, and happily, we are all "built" to be able to cope with them.